How often do you remember (or take the time) to tell people how much you like, admire, or appreciate them? For many people, it's not often enough. In fact, when I ask people how often they receive heartfelt compliments from others, I hear answers like "I can't remember the last time I received a compliment", "hardly ever", and sadly, "I never receive them"..!!!

There are several reasons why we don't vocally let others know about our positive feelings towards them. I've heard excuses like, "they don't need to hear me say that, they already know", and "I do admire her, but I'm too embarrassed to say anything." But when you ask the would-be recipient if he or she enjoys being given genuine compliments and positive feedback, the answer nine times out of ten is- "I LOVE IT!!" Whether your reason for not giving compliments on a regular basis is- not knowing what to say, embarrassment, feeling that other people already know their strengths and don't need to be told, or simply not being in the habit of doing it, it's time for a CHANGE..!!

Telling someone something that you like, admire or appreciate about them is a "random act of kindness." It takes almost no effort (once u get the hang of it), yet it pays enormous dividends. Many people spend their entire lifetime wishing that other people would acknowledge them. They feel this specially about their parents, spouses, children and friends. But even compliments from strangers feel good if they're genuine..! Letting someone know how you feel about them also feels good to the person offering the compliment. It's a gesture of loving kindness. It means that your thoughts are geared with what's right with someone. And when your thoughts are geared in a positive direction, your feelings are peaceful..!!

The other day I was in the grocery store and witnessed and incredible display of patience. The checkout clerk had just been chewed out by an angry customer, clearly without good cause. Rather than being reactive, the clerk defused the anger by remaining calm. When it was my turn to pay for my groceries, I said to her, "I'm so impressed at the way you handled that customer." She looked at me right in the eye and said, "Thank you ma'am! Do you know you're the first person ever to give me a compliment in this store??" it took less than two seconds to let her know, yet it was a highlight of her day and that of mine too..!!!